When I first wrote
this list, everyone said I was being ridiculously impossible.
That may be true, BUT in my defense, I use it as a guideline,
definitely not a checklist. Using this as a checklist would be
crude and unfair. Plus, these aren't superficial qualities!
It's not as if I am saying: "You must be a professional comedian, have
brown hair, wear glasses, and host your own political satire show on
Comedy Central at 11:30pm PST...Everyone else? Dead to me."
what ladomivita would like from a nice boy (born between 1970 - August 1980)
1. Kind. Everyone can be nice
and polite, but it takes a real man to be kind, patient, and empathetic
with those around him. Someone warm and brimming with compassion.
2. Honesty. Honest with me, honest with himself.
3. Open-minded.
Strong opinions always welcome, but be flexible enough to see matters
from different perspectives.
4. A keen intelligence.
Someone brilliant in some area. (Note: not synonymous with being overly
educated). You don't have to attend a fancy-schmancy school to engage
me intellectually.
5. Self-aware and confident while being modest and humble. No matter how accomplished you are, if you're arrogant, yuck! Arrogance is my biggest turn-off.
6. Funny, witty.
Someone who makes me
laugh until my tummy hurts and who is unafraid to be silly at times.
7. Thoughtful and giving.
Someone who thinks of ways to brighten my day or to do something nice
just because. I'm not looking for material gifts. I'd be a happy clam
if it's something like a sweet one-line email "hey how are you?
thinking of you." Or maybe you know I'm having a super busy day and
surprise me with lunch or a snack or coffee or tea. Yes, the way to my heart is through
my stomach. Hee.
8. Cute (to me) in a kissable and jumpable way. Someone who finds me kissable and jumpable, too. There, I said it.
9. Passionate, curious, and inquisitive
about the world and his interests. Someone who sees life for its
possibilities and is excited about living.
10. Good and effective at communication and emotionally expressive.
I am tired of inferring feelings based on facial expressions and small
verbal cues. I know I need to cultivate faith and trust, but I
need evidence-based reasons to believe and to have said faith and
trust. 11. Ambitious but understands that his work is not his entire identity. 12. Strong - emotionally and physically. 13. WARM and affectionate. Enjoys hugging and kissing me and is good at it. An infectious smile.
14. Loves and adores me forme.
(And lets me love and adore him back). And by me, I mean me in my
silliness, for how I see the world, for the way I treat those
around me, for the way I laugh, for the way I live. For reasons
that you don't even know yourself. Not for objectifiable reasons
(beauty, brains, my bookshelf, etc).
I don't think this list sounds ridiculous or impossible....after all, *I* fit it... :P
No, but seriously, don't ever feel like you have to settle. The right person for you is out there somewhere, just waiting for you to find him. :)
Everybody ought to have a list like this and follow it.
When I first read the title of this post, I thought you were quoting Prufrock. "Will I open at the close?" kind of sounds like a line from that poem, doesn't it? Do I dare disturb the universe? Will I open at the close? Will I get seaweed between my toes?
A little googling revealed I was wrong.
These are the same qualities I look for in a woman.
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No, but seriously, don't ever feel like you have to settle. The right person for you is out there somewhere, just waiting for you to find him. :)
When I first read the title of this post, I thought you were quoting Prufrock. "Will I open at the close?" kind of sounds like a line from that poem, doesn't it? Do I dare disturb the universe? Will I open at the close? Will I get seaweed between my toes?
A little googling revealed I was wrong.